It is a bit oxymoronic, to be discussing these two words, one being followed by the other, coz at least to me they stand for spirits that are totally apart from one another, although might not be antagonistic. And here I go rambling once more…
I wonder why I am in the first place trying to get these two words together – perhaps I guess due to my deep rooted faith and belief in the ancient wisdom – ‘If u love someone, don’t need that person’[1]. And obviously love here stands in all its forms - romantic, non-romantic, amorous, or otherwise – in short all the fields that can be encompassed by the word responsibility. Hence I sit wondering if responsibility might at all accrue if one is detached and if responsibility is once picked up if one can afford to be detached…
Responsibility, I believe comes out as a duty of care, only when there is certain amount of attachment associated with the person. But again taking a mere glance at the fact that responsibility is the result of the care and love that one shares, how fair will it be to mar it with a dash of selfishness of attachment. Is love not selfless in essence? Love can actually be the purest and the truest (or even perhaps only true) only when there is an amount of detachment associated. Detachment however precludes the possibility of any responsibility cropping up. It is a pre-requirement that there is certain relationship existing for a responsibility. It seems so entangled at times to separate the two concepts of preexisting relation and responsibility. I believe so.
Perhaps to find happiness, or rather I should use the word bliss, the only way is through the path of detachment, since there shall be then no expectations to be shattered and no contrivance in the path of joy. Only the purest of form can yield the best and the happiest. However for the sake of this, it is never the way to let go off duties and responsibilities. ‘Detached Responsibility’ is hence perhaps the ‘middle path’ solution to this predicament. No matter how oxymoronic it is, no matter how quixotic it sounds…
9 comments:
thought-provoking...but the perfect relationship which you have highlighted in ur article is not possible in day-to-day real life...call me cynical,but i think it's the stuff of dreams...looking forward to more posts from u!
have a bad tendency to nt vwnture too much in dreams, if i do not hav a taste of it in reality.. can provide nuthin oder than ma word.. but it is possible...
Hmmm.....a friendship....that has potential to be more but remains a friendship for the reason, that the people involved do not want the responsibility of a relationship......wud u call that detached responsibility...?
@Erce:
No, i shall call it cowardice... Detached responsibility in this circumstance shall be teking up the responsibility but not expecting anything out of such acceptance... negating the expectation of reciprocity is perhaps detached responsibility..
A bit too late too leave a comment but i guess it doesnt matter.
relationships give birth to expectations and the same thing can be said the other way around.is it possible to love without wanting to be loved or atleast remembered in return.i dont think anything in this world can be so eutopic.....
nahh.. its never too late on my blog... that too for u man... the comment box shall always stay open..
and oh yes.. i cud nt agree more that relationships do give rise to a lot of expectations.. and thats where i blive the probs begin... but why exactly can the other route not be made feasible... i guess it is.. and that is the path i guess to move out of the narrow limitations that we force ourselves to stay in...
i believe and do very strongly believe that it is possible... may be a difficult path to achieve but difficulty alone cannot make the path so utopic that it shall go beyond perception....
i've always tried for this in some sense, thought about it always...but some part of me finds it hard to take the last step towards detachment...somewhere, somehow, i get caught up in it the emotion of it all
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I m not dat sort of a person who puts deep thoughts in her words. Simply i wud like to say, ur words do make sense. I don't know whether dey r practically possible or not, but dat doesn't really matter. What is provides is a dream, a dream of a better life, a dream of relations n expectations, or maybe da other way round. But whatever it is, really a good piece of thought-provoking reading..
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